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Friday, 4 March 2011

My stalkers out there might have realised
I always write recounts and
seldom (or don't) reflect on my blog (at all) .__.ll
Let me explain myself kay...
I think reflections are very personal stuffs
And there are stuffs that I'm unwilling to share with people about myself
I know I seem very secretive and full of secrets to you right now
AHAHAHAHA MYSTERIOUS JERMIA~ :DD

Another reason being...
I reflect in a "talk to myself" manner
and if I were to reflect in this manner on my blog
all of you will sleep larh zzzzzz -.-ll

However I shall write a not-reflection-like longlong post here today
To celebrate my 300th post WHEEEEE YAYYY! ^^
Happy 300th bloggie! xDD
May you last and live long and won't ever rot and eventually die :X

"Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you." (Matthew 7:1-2)

Somehow, we being humans, like to gossip a lot. Somehow, when we gossip with people about a person we do not like, we feel better because it's like... "wow! I'm the not only person disliking her! Yayyy I'm still an angel, I'm not evil and unreasonable afterall! She's so ____, people can't help but not like her! It's not my fault!" And somehow when gossiping with others about this certain "hateful" person, you feel that all of you actually have something in common, a 共鸣 and 共识.

It's not like I don't gossip la. I gossip too! :X Sometimes we just can't help it but judge and comment on others, like "aiyooooo she's so attention-seeking!" and "what's with his dressing sense! He dresses like a beggar!" :P I admit this is a bad habit I have to change, gossiping is sinful. Furthermore, when my mother read this and realised her daughter actually gossips, she shook her head disapprovingly and scolded me. "这就叫做 kaypo lor!"

However, today I'm not going to talk about gossiping as a whole, to prevent the 尴尬场面 of 自己骂自己. .__.ll But rather, I'm going to talk about gossiping about your friends. -Underlines, highlights and italicises the "friends".- Don't you think it is very heartbreaking and depressing to know that a friend whom you care for and trust so much talks behind your back?

To me, a friend is someone who tries to embrace you for who you are, both your strengths and weaknesses. Even if someone decided that, "woah, this certain aspect of my friend really taboleh tanhan man", a true friend, in my opinion, should not see teasing and gossiping about her frend's weaknesses and taboleh-tahan-ness as a form of entertainment and derive happiness and joy from talking bad about her behind her back. If someone, after gossiping with others about her friend, actually feels happy and not a tinge of guilt after that, is that someone still considered as a true friend? In this case, I think they are more of 冤家s than friends, and I sense hidden discontentment and resentment, whether one-sided or two-sided, in their friendship.

Suddenly thought about this when a friend of mine was lamenting about our friend's smart aleck-ness and blahblahblah. Throughout her whole gossiping process, while listening to her complaining about how pissed she is with this friend of ours, I thought to myself how two-faced she is. In front of our friend, she appears to be so close to her, smiling and laughing with her, hugging her, 撒娇 to her and calling her by her nickname etc. I wonder how, I wonder why, as a friend, she actually 看 her friend 不顺眼 for little things she did, the little "mistakes" she made.

Everyone has her own weaknesses. However, isn't it better to tell her your 不满s straight in her face rather than indirectly hurt her by spreading rumors about her to her friends? "But wait, what if I tell her about her 弱点s then she gets pissed and decided not to befriend me anymore and dao me?" Errr... this is better than she finds out later that you actually gossips behind her back right? By that time your friendship 无药可救 le larh. When talking to her, don't be so harsh la, talk nicely, I think that person will accept it. I like friends like Laokai, Jiexi and Erntian! Cos they tell me straight in the face my taboleh-tahan-ness. Even though I feel a bit sad sometimes, I trust that they are my true friends who will never, like the friend I mentioned in the previous paragraph, talk behind my back :)

Jermia hopped off at 20:35